I have noticed the trend over the years – to dress our babies in the funkiest, funniest, cutest way possible. You can find forums and blogs talking specifically about fashion for babies or kids; where to find the trendiest clothes and accessories, what the fashion is right now, matching outfits – you get the idea…
It’s clearly not about the babies or kids; it’s about us, the mothers. Far too often, we depend on outside approval; we want the attention
Why have we gone so far as to create and follow a fashion-world for kids? Is this really not affecting our kids in a way that they are becoming a mirror of us. Aren’t we losing the chance to see them for who they truly are?
Where it comes from?
Top industrial clothing companies are always pushing for more sales and more profit, and by introducing fashion for babies and kids, they simply make more money. They know about psychology; they study it. They’ve known all along that we mothers, especially new mums, are so vulnerable; desperately trying to fit in, striving to be the best, to get the standing ovations, to prove ourselves (to whom, really?)
We don’t want to admit our failures and our hardships, so the last thing we want to be is vulnerable.
This paves the way to a ‘mask-a-life’, as I call it. And all this obsession with fashion is exactly that. You mask everything to look perfect. Look at my kid, how much I care about her/him. I spend endless hours looking for the ‘right’ clothing. She/he looks so cute, doesn’t she/he? I take care of them in every way possible. And THAT is
I know I am talking about extremes in a way. Usually, those mums have issues of their own, and marketers know it. Some mums make a living out of fashion, because they like the whole dress-up thing, putting their kids in those cute little clothes. Some of us just buy the clothes on impulse. None is really okay, I
Kids usually want a colorful wardrobe; I understand that. Still, I would argue about those same conditioning images and messages that such clothes send out: Boys – dinosaurs, cars, heroes, cool, bold; girls – unicorns, fairies, flowers, magic, softness, bossiness.
I appreciate that as kids get a little older they might already have their favorite subjects, interests and animation heroes. However, do we really need to display their likes and dislikes on their clothing? What culture are we creating? No wonder that later on they only want the latest, trendiest, and coolest clothes – what everyone around is wearing…
In my opinion, kids (not the babies, obviously) have the right to choose what they like to wear. I let my daughter wear anything she likes. I don’t pair items that match or ask her not to wear shorts over leggings or take out the skirt from the dress (you name it…) I believe that’s what fashion is all about really; it’s your own idea and understanding of what looks nice. If it looks good to you – way to go!
However, the fashion industry as such wouldn’t survive in this way. So, they need to pressurize and persuade mums to dress their babies and kids in a certain way; someone else’s dictated way. (Dictated by us mums, and later on by the fashion world). Once you think that you don’t have the autonomy to dress in your own way (or – insert here…), sooner or later you will eventually submit and believe there is no other way.
We are being conditioned, and our fears are being manipulated, which has not been broken down from the past. We have to break those chains and set ourselves, and then our kids, free.
We need to be more open with each other, relax more, laugh more, spend time with our kids rather than simply doing things for our kids. We need to step back and sort out our priorities. Ask the question: Am I doing this because I want to or because I am made to believe I do?
Find your inner voice – it knows best.
Trust your kids and let them be them.
First and foremost is an open request for myself.